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Teaching kälm works better than yelling, "calm down!"
webe kälm is a transformative tool designed to teach children how to kälm through slow exhalation, visual focus, and auditory regulation (white noise). For generations adults have often encouraged children to "relax," "breathe," or "calm down." However, what they truly need is to learn HOW to achieve these states of relaxation and composure.
Consider it the most essential addition to your parenting toolkit. With webe kälm, parents can unlock the power of co-regulation, working together with children to teach them how to approach the difficulties they will face in life.
webe kälm helps with
wee little ones can become unbalanced for the most simple of reasons adults fail to comprehend.
- Someone took the rock they were playing with.
- An adult just mentioned the dreaded word, "bed time."
- Another child got ice cream when they didn't.
On and on it goes and there isn't anything we can do about those feelings. They are real. webe kälm is designed to help give adults the tools to bring the kids back into balance in a collaborative way without exacerbating the child.
Use as necessary in those difficult times. The benefits of being kälm is not limited to an amount of time.
each webe kälm purchase comes with the following:
- webe kälm - 1x breathe tube and 1x indicator
- 1x matching anti-microbial stow bag
- 1x L/XL webe in this together bracelet
- 1x child webe in this together bracelet
(for bracelet sizing or to order a S/M bracelet add one to cart below)
are there different sizes?
although parents and children will experience it differently by age, webe kälm comes in one size.
it's a webe not a doobie
webe kälm is a tool to help children learn to calm down. Our mature minds may remind us of similarly shaped items, but we assure you, the child calmer is designed to train children on slow exhalation, not inhalation.
webe kälm is dishwasher safe in the top rack. Simply remove the indicator with the ball and slide the breathe tube and indicator onto the uprights of the top rack. Let it air dry or heat dry. Wash as needed.
For full care instructions visit here.
storage on the go
Keep your webe kälm clean and protected by removing the indicator from the breathe tube, placing them in the storage bag, and securing the cords. This allows you to easily carry your webe kälm in a school bag, purse, glove box, or stored in the junk drawer.
"webe in this together" bracelets
Comes with 1 x Child and 1 x L/XL
The most pivotal moment for fostering a strong bond between kids and parents is when they work together. Each webe kälm set contains a child-sized and adult-sized bracelet. These bracelets serve as a constant reminder to find a more constructive approach during moments of frustration.
The ergonomically designed breathe tube enables restful lips to breathe effortlessly into the webe kälm. Insert the indicaot into the breathe tube to observe the visual effects of slow exhalation and listen to the soothing white noise. For a more discreet experience, the Indicator can be used optionally.
When the correct level of air pressure is blown into the breathing tube, the ball will rise in the indicator. It will remain airborne for as long as you exhale, allowing for visual concentration on the elevated ball.
even adults need kälm
webe kälm is most effective when an adult guides a child in using it. You can count and practice breathing with your child or use your own webe, but by breathing in slowly, then exhaling while counting for a child, you not only help them learn how to calm themselves, but you also find your own kälm.
This approach ensures that both you and the child will be in a balanced state for the upcoming conversation.learn about kälm for adults
learn how to find your kälm
how does the webe kälm work?
There is substantial data highlighting three pathways that stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system to generate a sense of inner peace and calm. They are controlled breathing with extended exhalation, visual focus, and auditory regulation.
webe kälm creates a simple method for children to engage all three pathways simultaneously. First, an immediate soothing effect is experienced through slow extended exhalation into the mouthpiece. Next, visual focus on keeping the ball aloft generates mindfulness. Finally, with each exhalation, “white noise” is created in the chamber, reminiscent of natural sounds that trigger neural connections created during fetal development. This cumulative approach helps children connect to their minds and bodies, while filtering outside distractions.
For detailed instructions be sure to check out out our "How to" section.
how do I introduce the webe kälm to my child?
Introduce the webe kälm with positive language to avoid stimulating shame in “needing” it:
"I came across this wonderful tool that can help us communicate and support each other when we're feeling upset. I thought it would be great for us to explore together."
This approach lays the groundwork for adults to introduce webe kälm during a child's emotional outburst effectively.
what are the best ways to get my child to use the webe kälm?
When dealing with younger children, we often resort to saying "calm down" when they're struggling with emotional outbursts. To avoid making a similar mistake by simply instructing them to "use your webe," it's helpful for parents to reframe webe kälm as a tool for moments like temper tantrums, bedtime, or crying episodes. Instead of a direct command, try a more empathetic approach, such as,
"I can see that you're upset, and I want to fully understand what you're feeling. Let's use webe kälm to calm your mind first, so I can better connect with what you're going through."
This approach focuses on empathy and collaboration rather than a directive, making it more likely for the child to engage with the tool willingly.
how can I get the best results for my child?
This is a collaborative approach. As we are aware, practices like controlled breathing, focused attention, and the use of white noise can help calm the mind. Think of it as a new skill – just like how you didn't learn to write perfectly the first time you picked up a pencil, your child won't immediately master the art of using the webe kälm tool on their own.
The initial step involves taking slow breaths through the nose to fill the lungs. It will require consistent reminders from adults. However, with time, children will begin to recognize the benefits and may even remind you to use the webe kälm when you're feeling upset
Can I use webe kälm reactively?
In truth, this is why most parents are trying it. We all recognize the moments when our children are out of balance and want to teach them how to kälm.
Reactive use involves responding to the immediate challenges and dysregulation in the moment, akin to addressing a headache with Tylenol when the pain is already present. While using the webe kalm reactively can offer relief in the moment, it's comparable to addressing symptoms rather than preventing future "headaches." Like keeping Tylenol on hand for potential discomfort, we want the webe kalm available not only when we're in distress but also for proactive use.
Read our FAQ to learn how to proactively use webe kälm as well.
Can I use webe kälm proactively?
Proactive use involves employing strategies to prevent or minimize issues before they arise. In the context of promoting calmness, it's like giving your nervous system a soothing "massage" through practices such as slow exhalation, focused attention, and auditory regulation. Similar to nourishing your body with nutrients, using the webe kalm regularly throughout the day is like providing calming messages to build a foundation of calmness. Just as you don't wait until you're starving to eat, using the webe kalm proactively—such as upon waking, before meals, and before bedtime—helps create a familiar sense of calm.
This proactive approach not only tunes the nervous system to a state of comfort but also establishes muscle memory for easier return to calmness when needed. It's an investment in your calm "savings account," ensuring a reserve of calmness ready for withdrawal whenever necessary.
does it actually help with bedtime?
Absolutely, we've all witnessed that moment when a child is told it's bedtime. Suddenly, a surge of adrenaline courses through their system, and they practically bounce off the walls. Frequently, the transition from that point to reading a book turns into a wrestling match between child and parents.
Here's a suggestion: before announcing bedtime, invite your child to use the webe kälm first, and then gently explain that it's time to start the bedtime routine. In many cases, they might even request your assistance in counting the seconds.
This collaborative approach not only helps to calm them but also fosters trust in the bedtime process. The results can be quite remarkable. And if they start to become restless again, don't hesitate to suggest using the webe kälm once more.
Mind blown 🤯
I just watched my 11 year old go from full melt down hyperventilating to coherent in 30 seconds. We talked it out and she was back to herself within a few minutes. I'm in utter disbelief. I love this thing on day 5.
I have a new favorite tool
I've been trying to connect to my son for the last 3 years and it's been hard to connect as we both get really upset at each other. We both agreed to try this together and I can't believe how much we have connected in the last few weeks.
I can't believe this hasn't been done before now. I tell my kids every day to calm down and breathe. I would get varying results. They now do it like pros and I'm able to help them through some of their hardships. I love it! Just wish there were a few more colors.